It’s something I’ve written about before, I’m sure, but I’m still thinking about it.
I’m putting together a lovely box of essential oils, essential-oil products, and gifts for this program, Bone Deep.
It’s a two-fold thing, taking its theme from that old saw “beauty is only skin deep”.
If only. There’s an implication “Therefore it is unimportant, and no one should care!” There is no question that paying less attention to external beauty would be nice, especially for the poor kids getting jaw-shaving surgery (among other things) in the K-pop industry.
But it also clashes with this idea that beauty can come from within, something we know to be true.
So, this box includes skincare stuff–infused with essential oils that are great to lift the mood AND treat your skin deliciously.
It also includes a booklet about taking 14 days to improve your love toward yourself. Being at home in your skin is an indefinably beautifying thing.
It also includes three sessions with me on the subject, because getting support and targeted help with the process is invaluable. (I can tell myself over and over again that I’m FINE but it’s when a coach asks me, “So what is really happening” that I’m honest with myself.)
The problem with dismissing beauty is that it seems to be planted in our consciousness for a reason. The way we evaluate it is directed by our cultures–the way we respond to it often coded by our own experience.
(For instance, the way I feel hostility and mistrust toward guys with a certain set of features, because I watched a guy I thought was cute sucker-punch the school misfit. I’m sure many of them haven’t done that, but it’s coded in that they’re capable of deceiving me!)
We react to other humans through a complicated mesh of factors, and what our eyes see is incredibly powerful.
The good news is that very often we see “confidence” before we see size number, or “kind eyes” before we see wrinkles.
It also matters that what you see in your body and face is a reflection of what is going on in your health. As I get more and more experienced as a health coach, I start to notice certain tells in faces or body-shapes that correspond to physical issues.
(Was phrenology so off after all? Who can say, very little legit research on that one…)
Your skin shows, in a muted way, where you’re under stress, where your diet is out of balance.
I include beauty (in the sense of skincare and fitness) in my passions, even though externals aren’t something I hold as a virtue. Instead, it’s because it has a very real interaction between emotion and health, the two things I’m the most fierce about.
Love and beauty from within–you can’t get the one without the other, it seems to me.
What can you do to show your body and spirit a little love today?